Dear Asian People

It’s not all Asians, but it’s always Asians.

“If you didn’t know what you wanted to do, you should’ve taken a gap year.”

“TV shows like these where you have to use your brain to think about, you shouldn’t be watching them.”

“Look at your cousin - we all thought his degree was the most useless but look at him getting a new job paying 80k a year. Look at you.”

— My Asian Mother

Personally speaking, hearing things like these being said day in and day out (no matter how strong my EQ/IQ is) hurts. The saying that Asian households don’t show their love the same way as other races? Bullshit. At the end of the day, it comes down to who the child is. If it was the favorite child(s) who can do no wrong then they will be praised and supported for doing the bare minimum. But if it was the child that is already labeled as the shame of the family, no matter what they do or how much they do, it’ll never be enough.

If a child has turned to being defensive all the time, it’s not their fault. They have been subjugated to verbal and emotional abuse from the people who are supposed to love and support them for so many years - they have grown accustomed to having to fend for themselves. The people that they call their parents, their family, the ones that brought them into this world - treat them like nothing.

If one day as a parent or family member you are cut off, no words are said as to why, it is because of the constant (years) of abuse. And before you start saying your piece? Don’t. You never let them say their piece, all you did was criticize and shame. The double standard, hypocritical point of view that you so readily display without second thought as to the effects it has? One day it will bite you in the ass, and maybe be the reason you lose a child.